Kathryn Tonges is a parenting and personal development instructor and coach. She is a National Trainer for Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia Ltd.
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“This course has changed my whole parenting paradigm. I used to run my household of 4 kids with authority and a raised voice. Kathryn has shown me that in fact a different path exists. If you choose this path, peace predominates, all family members try to ensure the other members
Testimonials
"The most amazing things in the world are just starting to happen in my family, thanks to P.E.T. My 4 year old, without asking gets up from the breakfast table, washes his hands, gets dressed, cleans his room ! Seeing the change in him and how active listening
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Inclusiveness, respect and a sense of belonging for everyone regardless of cultural or linguistic background are values that underpin Harmony Week (14 to 21 March). These values are the very essence of all harmonious relationships. Effectiveness Training Institute of Australia’s mission is to provide individuals with effective communication and
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You have had enough. The repetitive whinging, whining or wailing accompanied by sounds of grumbling, griping or groaning have tipped your tipping point far too many times. You have implored, beseeched, exploded, threatened and bribed and yet your child’s pattern of communication resurfaces again and again. It’s irritating,
"P.E.T. rocks and so does Kathryn! I have two boys aged 8 and 10 here in Beijing. Their mom is Chinese and I am American, from Boston. I’ve been in China for 18 years so the boys were born and raised here. I’ve found, unsurprisingly,
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Parents yearn for the peaceful sound of silence. The soothing balm of quiet solitude. An inner calm. Family life is so often a cacophony of sounds, activity and busy-ness that floods and overloads the senses of each family member. Parents giving commands, children resisting, the incessant background noise of television
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“Have I told you lately how much I like P.E.T.?” So began a text message from my daughter-in-law Alison. I was curious. The message was about how Alison had successfully used Parent Effectiveness Training’s Method III, no-lose problem solving, to deal with a conflict with her two
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Following is a true story told by a mother who has newly learnt Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) skills. Camilla, the mother of Thea, 7 years old, decides to introduce and apply the no-lose method of conflict resolution with her daughter for the first time. P.E.T. teaches
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The following heart warming story was written by Cindy, a mother who was attending a Parent Effectiveness Training course that I was conducting. She had just been learning about the importance of actively listening to children when they have a problem to assist them identifying their need. She was also
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“What should I do? Won’t my children be affected? My spouse thinks that parenting comes naturally”. Voiced in every parenting course that I teach, these are understandable concerns. For some parents the changes feel like a threat or a criticism of their parenting style or even of the way
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My first webinar! Children can easily get frustrated when they have problems. Learn skills to help de-escalate emotions and move children from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset.
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Nurturing your baby is all encompassing. So you may be wondering: how can it be possible to nurture your relationship with your partner let alone deepen it? We are each behaving to get our needs met and your baby is very needy – dependent in fact. You would be excused therefore